"1. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your living situation- 15 Things You Don’t Owe Anyone At All (Though You Think You Do.)
2. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your life priorities
3. You don’t owe anyone an apology if you are not sorry
4. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for requiring alone time
5. You don’t owe anyone your agreement on their personal beliefs.
6. You don’t owe anyone a yes to everything they say
7. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your physical appearance
8. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your food preferences.
9. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your sex life
10. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your career or personal life choices
11. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your religious or political views
12. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for being single
13. You don’t owe anyone a date just because they asked
14. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for you decision about marriage
15. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your relationship choices"
Today, it happened again: a number of celebrities were targeted, and their private, intimate photos were leaked online.
This is not their fault. You have the right to take whatever pictures of yourself you wish. As long as everyone involved is a consenting adult, then no harm, no foul. The blame doesn’t and should never fall on anyone who has their system hacked and their personal information of any kind thrown out into public.
But I’m also going to tell you this: if you choose to use any form of internet connected device for storing anything, no one will protect you. Your ISP won’t protect you. You cell phone provider won’t protect you. Apple won’t protect you. Google won’t protect you. Law enforcement won’t protect you; at best, there may be a prosecution down the line (if you’re rich and famous enough), but by then the damage will be done.
Again: this is not their fault. It’s not the fault of anyone who has this happen to them. It’s like seeing someone’s door kicked off its hinges and all their things taken, and instead of a condemnation of the robbers they’re told they should have gotten a stronger door. It shouldn’t happen, but … it does.
With this in mind, you should protect yourself, now and in the future. You have the right to take intimate photos, but both the service providers and the legal system can’t be depended upon to take necessary steps to prevent them from being taken from you.
How do you protect yourself?
Never put intimate photos on devices connected to the internet, and never store them on a cloud service. Never allow them out of your control. Never make copies. Never trust encryption or passwords. When not in use, webcams should be disconnected or covered.
A very cynical voice in my head also inclines me to say not to trust them in the possession of a significant other. Those relationships change in ways you can’t foresee. There are things of a non-intimate nature I wish I hadn’t trusted to an ex; I shudder to think what would have been done with explicit photos. But that’s entirely dependant on your relationship, and how you conduct it.
What was done to these women was wrong. Their expectation of privacy was entirely justified, and it’s not their fault that every safeguard and system let them down. I don’t tell you to protect yourself as a way of assigning blame to the victims. I do it as a way of assigning shame to the people who should have prevented this, but didn’t, and don’t, and won’t.
You have to protect yourself, because the companies and agencies that should aren’t in a rush to do their jobs.
Obama on gay adoption
yeah totally ruining this country what a horrible guy
Fun fact: Obama has attempted to fix almost everything that he promised to fix, but the republicans have voted almost all of his bills out of congress. He’s not the problem.
That fact isn’t very fun
Because they were always heroes, even before they officially became them.
#ok but no#no no no no#that is literally tony being a villain#like#absolutely 100% supervillain territory#that is a giant ass bomb that he built and then didn’t care who got it#he was NOT a hero first#that’s the whole point of him#that’s what he brings to the shitfest that is the avengers team#some of them ARE heroes who needed a little something extra to prove it to everyone else#steve right#i basically mean steve#but thor was a genocidal playboy#tony was a supervillain#and bruce had the most dangerous bad practices with science of a tropey mad scientist ever#no they were not good men#steve was always a great man#sam is always a great man#but these other guys are proof that owning your mistakes is the best way to be a better man#THAT’s the POINT
james franco gets busted for soliciting sex from an underage girl.
media: franco made a mistake, and has apologized. he hopes to move past this incident and focus entirely on his career from now on.
jennifer lawrence’s nude photos are stollen from her phone.
media: when will these actresses learn to control themselves?? this scandal has surely damaged what remains of her career!
"I’m also a killer. I’ve killed a lot, and if I need to I’ll kill a whole bunch more. If you don’t want to get killed, don’t show up in front of me."-
WATCH HIS WHOLE SPEECH. He covers every spectrum, damning gay people, looking like might vomit while talking about how disgusted he is that women can be in the military, being straight up racist, and claiming the bible cannot be separated from law… dude should be locked up
I really wish I was a few years older because then I would have been at college with Kyle and I really wish I was friends with him. I wish I was friends with most of Chez Apocalypse, but I feel a sort of connection to Kyle since I’m also from Maryland and I just really wish I could meet him or chat with him. He seems like a great friend.
As a former girlfriend, I think Kyle is one of the most wonderful people I have ever met. He’s sweet, funny, intelligent, handsome, and just a great, fun person to be around. He’s motivated (I assistant directed Election Cycle), he’s made me a better person, and he’s probably made me a better person in ways I haven’t realized yet. We don’t talk anymore, but I wish we did. I hated to lose such a good friend, but maybe one day…
"These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’-
Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize."
BOOOM. Read this if you are a dude, please.
Its hard for men to understand why women dont get loud & angry because they havent spent their entire lives being reprimanded whenever they take up too much space. (via pluralfloral)
FUCK YOUR PERPETUATION OF THE "BRONIES AREN'T REALLY OPPRESSED MYTH" YOU PRIVILEGED FUCKS. I COULDN'T GET A JOB BECAUSE OF MY BRONY ARMBAND.
The World of a Crazy Chick Answer:
IM SC REA MING
i don’t have enough air in my lungs to laugh the way i want to at this.
I so, so hope beyond all hoping that this was sincere and not someone just being funny. I really want this guy to exist, and be struggling in the world.